I am sure that there are many coaches from many different sports who have been asked at various times by parents “Is there anything further I can do to assist my child’s development?” You may have received a positive response or have been met by the opposite polite but firm reaction that “thank you but we can take care of his needs”. If you find yourself having experienced the latter that should not prevent you from taking an active interest in your child’s development. There is no doubt that you are in a truly influential position and able to act as an influencer or a preventer of progress. After all, you know your child better than anybody.
If we first understand that young people are driven by their emotions, which can lead them to be impulsive and can drive their behaviours and ultimately their actions. Sometimes in our own disappointments we can forget, as their actions surprise us, that their emotions are very powerful drivers. So, it follows that if our own mindsets are positive, as we have previously discussed in past posts then there is much that we can put in place via our own mindsets to assist both child and club staff. Let’s have a closer look at some specific details:
Are there then specific actions that we create within our role as guiders of talent? There are four behaviours that we can all make patterns within our actions:
Our mindsets, positive actions and the advice we give can play a key role in the development process. We should be looking to reduce the dependence that players feel towards parents and coaches. Encouraging our children to take responsibility for their learning and progression is a big step we can make. This encourages our children to start engaging in making decisions for themselves until they become independent of the need of others to do it for them. As parents our mindsets and our positive actions play a very significant role in our children’s development in a game we all love.